How to Be Taken Seriously During Dating
One of the main reasons why people are unsatisfied with their love lives is they do not treat their love lives the way that a Chief Executive Officer treats a business. A business leader knows that she needs to be aware of what is happening in her company and respond quickly to business needs and trends. A business leader knows that she needs to develop a clear plan and follow the plan in order to achieve the business objectives that she wants to meet. Have you put together a plan of action on how to be in your ideal relationship? If not, you might not ever find it. In order to be taken seriously when you are dating, you first need to take the process of finding the right person seriously. Being too casual about the way you approach your personal life will not help you to find the serious relationship that you crave.
A C.E.O. knows that she needs to show up in her company. When your car gets from point A to point B, it needs to be driven by you. If you are not steering your car, it is going to stay in a parked position. How are you steering your love life? This is a question that each person needs to ask themselves when they wonder aloud to themselves about why their love lives are not changing. We each play a role in every relationship that we are in. You are the common denominator of every relationship that you have. And, when you choose the person who will be the co-star in your love life, you are making choices that are based on your past experiences and your current hopes and beliefs. Some seriously good things happen in your life when you take your life seriously. It is okay to have fun, but even fun moments should be approached with seriousness. Seriously! The first step towards transforming your love life and taking it seriously is to have a seriously soul-searching conversation with yourself and ask yourself what you want your life to look like.
A conversation with yourself about dating is one in which you need to be very aware of what is going on. Remember, your attitudes towards love are shaped by what you have been shown and taught. The main people who were responsible for teaching you about a loving relationship are your parents. If your parents did not do a fabulous job of demonstrating what a healthy relationship is, the good news is that you are not doomed to failure. You can still have a wonderful relationship with your future soulmate. When you were an infant, you did not know how even half of the things that you know now. But look at how far you have come, and you have come so far because you have been willing to learn what you need to know so that you can succeed. You can certainly learn how to be in a positive union if you want to be in one and take action steps to find the right person for you and build the best life for yourself.
Hiring a dating coach or a life coach to help you pursue your relationship goals is one of the best things that you can do. A coach will not solve your problems for you, but a coach can provide you with the tools to help you realize that you are capable of facing your problems and finding solutions that work best for you. It is best to commit to working with your life coach on a regular basis, at least two to four times per month. However, if you are unable to work regularly with a life coach, seek out opportunities to take part in a coach’s group workshops, especially if relationships are their specialty. Participating in coaching will help you to track your progress, realize what you want and need, set an action plan, and build skills. As well, your coach will provide you with much needed support.
The first step towards achieving your goals is to simply start. You must do things differently if you want a different result. Falling into the same negative relationship patterns that you repeated in the past will not help you to move forward into a new and more beneficial relationship pattern. Taking a leadership role in changing your life and being the type of person who you want to attract will be life-changing for you. You become like the five people who you spend the most time with. The person who you spend the most time with is yourself. If you do not take your goals and dreams seriously, then no one else will. Block out all distractions that are keeping you from living the life you want with your ideal mate and do it right now. Have that conversation with yourself about what you want and then, get started immediately on pursuing the path to taking yourself seriously and doing the things that you need to do.
Akua Hinds
Business Marketer, Journalist & Performing Artist
